Heritage Baptist Church and Heritage Baptist Theological Seminary
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WELCOME TO THE LADIES CORNER
We Ladies of the Heritage Baptist Church welcome you to our Ladies Corner with the sincere hope that you will find help and encouragement from the Words of God for your daily living. It is our purpose to share Bible answers that speak to the hearts of women, young and old, who endeavor to put the Lord Jesus Christ first and foremost in their homes. Knowing that we have an adversary we also know that we have an Advocate who gives us the victory as we follow Him!
LADIES 4TH ANNUAL TEA - 2009
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Patterns for Living
What is your daily pattern?
How do you go about your day?
Do you decide how to feel based on the weather?
Do you wake up on one side of the bed or the other?
What is the foundation for all occasions in your life?
First of all, to be able to establish a good pattern for living, one must be saved. Accepting the finished work of the cross by faith and receiving Jesus Christ into your heart begins a right relationship with the truth of the word of God. Then you have the power to establish good patterns for living.
Romans 10:17
"So then faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the word of God."
Second, after salvation comes the ever on going process of edification and application in one's life.
I Timothy 4:8b
"...but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come."
I. If you want to be distressed, look within.
A. Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked' who can know it?
B. Philippians 4:8 "Finally, bretheren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report: if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
THIS IS A GOOD PATTERN FOR LIVING - STEWARDSHIP OF OUR MIND.
II. If you want to be defeated, look back.
A. Luke 9:62 "And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kindom of God."
B. Philippians 3:13 "...forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching froth unto those things which are before,..."
THIS IS A GOOD PATTERN FOR LIVING - STEWARDSHIP OF OUR ACTIONS.
III. If you want to be distracted, look around.
A. II Timothy 2:4 "No man that warreth entangleth himself with the affairs of this life; that he may please him who hath chosen him to ve a soldier."
B. II Corinthians 4:18 "While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.
THIS IS A GOOD PATTERN FOR LIVING - STEWARDSHIP OF OUR FOCUS.
IV. If you want to be dismayed, look before.
A. Acts 1:7 "And he said unto them, It is not for you to know the times or the seasons, ..."
B. Psalm 37:5-7 "Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday. Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently on him ..."
THIS IS A GOOD PATTERN FOR LIVING - STEWARDSHIP OF OUR TRUST.
V. If you want to be delivered, look to Christ. Proverbs 28:13 "He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.
THIS IS A GOOD PATTERN FOR LIVING - STEWARDSHIP OF OUR FORGIVENESS.
VI. If you want to be delighted, look up! Hebrews 12:2 "Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith: who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
THIS IS A GOOD PATTERN FOR LIVING - STEWARDSHIP OF OUR CONTENTMENT
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LADIES 3RD ANNUAL TEA - 2008
"And the Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed. And out of the ground made the Lord God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of knowledge of good and evil. And a river went out of Eden to water the garden; And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it."
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In our lifetime we plant many gardens. Whether wittingly or unwittingly, we sow a multitude of seeds on a daily basis. Seeds unto others and seeds unto ourselves fall to the earth of each of our lives. Some of us are very young, some middle-aged, some older, and some… older than that! Some of us are eager to “begin our lives”, some of us are in the midst of our lives. Some of us are living with our parents still, some out on our own, some with spouses and some single, some even beyond that and living out our years with our spouses gone on as well as others of our family and many of our friends. In the course of the years of our lives we will have planted and reaped many gardens.
By the time we can walk and talk we begin to realize that we are able to reap fruit from what we sow. Some of that fruit we like and some of it we do not. Soon, in the flesh, we learn to manipulate as many of our circumstances as we are able in hopes of seeing the desired results.
In the Word of God we learn the principles of sowing and reaping. Galatians 6:7 & 8 tells us, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” Don’t be deceived, know the peril and know the promise of sowing and reaping.
Sowing and reaping the fruit of the seeds we plant must have a plan, a purpose, a pattern and priorities. God has that master plan for the gardens we sow. Lets look at His example of the perfect garden and let’s see how the First Lady of the Bible did in God’s garden of perfection.
The Garden of Eden
God’s Plan for the Garden of Eden was to make it beautiful.
1. God planted it – established it with a specific design.
We should design our garden with premeditation, thought.
(Pr 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.) Make plans on purpose!! Purpose in your heart to have God in mind as you sow seeds… in the heart and the mind of others and yourself!
2. God made it to grow – gave it rich, full, abundant life.
We should design our garden so that we give it life.
(Ps 119:159 Consider how I love thy precepts: quicken me, O LORD, according to thy lovingkindness.) Grow our hearts and others’ with the Bible, the living words of God.
3. God made it pleasant to the sight – to be delighted in greatly.
We should design our garden to be pleasant to the sight.
(Ps 37:23 The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.) Pleasure comes from orderliness, orderliness comes from following God’s Word.
4. God made it good for food – pleasant, wonderful sustenance.
We should design our garden to be food for the soul.
(Ps 119:130 The entrance of thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple.) Supporting our husbands, teaching our children, encouraging our friends needs to be done from God’s words.
5. God put the Tree of Life, and the Tree of Knowledge of
Good and Evil in it – God’s treasures of life and knowledge. Design your garden around the treasures of God. (Pr 15:6 In the house of the righteous is much treasure: but in the revenues of the wicked is trouble. Matt 6:20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:)
6. God watered His garden by a river flowing out of Eden – continual refreshing. Design your garden to be well watered. (Pr 11:25 The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself.) Living water, healing water, cleansing water ( John 4 and Eph 5).
God’s Purpose for the Garden of Eden was to make it a place of pleasure.
1. His purpose was for Adam to live in a place of pleasure (Gen 2:15) – he took Adam there. We should make our garden a place of pleasure. (Ps 147:11 The LORD taketh pleasure in them that fear him, in those that hope in his mercy.) Live in the fear of the Lord and hope in his mercy.
2. His purpose was for Adam to serve God in a place of pleasure – dress it. We should make our garden a place of service. (Ps 101:6 Mine eyes shall be upon the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me: he that walketh in a perfect way, he shall serve me.) Service is not always doing, but, also living a faithful walk in a perfect way!
3. His purpose was for Adam to guard that place of pleasure – keep it. We should make our garden a place that is guarded. (Ps 106:3 Blessed are they that keep judgment, and he that doeth righteousness at all times.) Keeping judgment and doing righteousness brings the blessing of God.
4. His purpose was for Adam and his family to live in obedience to God in a place of pleasure.
a. God gave Adam instructions. (Gen 2:16 & 17a)
b. God gave Adam warning . (Gen 2:17b)
c. God gave Adam a help meet to his needs. (Gen 2:19-22)
We should make our garden a place of obedience.
a. Accept God’s instructions –by accepting the Sun of Righteousness, Jesus Christ as your Saviour
b. Accept God’s warnings – by accepting the living word of God to Water your life.
c. Accept God’s help – by accepting the power of the Holy Spirit to live your life.
God’s Pattern for the Garden was to give order and bring glory to himself and happiness to Adam and his family.
1. God – God is first above all in God’s order
2. Man – God set man over the woman
3. Woman – God gave woman to the man
4. Creation – God gave man dominion
God’s pattern should be our Priority for our garden!
The First Lady of the Bible was Eve!
1. She was the first Woman – created in a perfect environment.
2. She was the first Wife – created as the perfect help to Adam.
3. She was the first Mother – responsible, with Adam, to teach.
4. She was the first Deceived – by not guarding God’s words.
5. She was the first to Commit Sin – by following the flesh.
Her Plan was to follow her God.
Her Purpose was to glorify her God.
Her Pattern was broken by sin.
God’s Plan Being First Best of Circumstances
+God’s Purpose +Being Best +Best of Intentions
+God’s Pattern +Being in Charge +Best of Education
God’s Blessings! Being Deceived Best of the World
The First Lady of the Bible sought to have that which seemed to be desirable. Don’t be fooled. “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” (Galatians 6:7&8) Sow the seeds of truth and wisdom. Sow the seeds of salvation and obedience. Reap the fruits of righteousness in your garden and in the lives of those you love.
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Little Ladies and Those Who Influence Them
Titus 2:4-5
Teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
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II Kings 5:2,3
“And the Syrians had gone out by companies, and had brought away captive out of the land of Israel a little maid; and she waited on Naaman's wife. And she said unto her mistress, Would God my lord were with the prophet that is in Samaria! for he would recover him of his leprosy.”
Prepared - to be established, be stable, be secure, be enduring, II Ch 12:14 And he did evil, because he prepared not his heart to seek the LORD.
1. Salvation – talk about salvation
2. Scripture – always use bible principles
3. Sobriety – be an example of
4. Simplicity – be consistent
Available – ready, I Pet 3:15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
1. Readiness of mind
2. Readiness of heart
Humble – Col 3:12-13 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
1. Kind
2. Forgiving
3. Patient
Obedient – I Pet 1:13-14 Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; As obedient children,
1. Gird up your mind
2. Be serious
3. Hope to the end
Insignificant – I Pet 3:4 …the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1. Be in the sight of God that which pleases him
2. Meek and quiet – appears as weakness to the world
Willingness – II Cor 8:12 For if there be first a willing mind, I Chron 28:9
Little maidens can and always should:
1. Have a prepared heart to be used as
a. God’s messenger
b. An instrument of God’s love
2. Have an available heart:
a. That knows about the Lord
b. That has a love for the Lord
3. Have a humble heart:
a. In the home
b. Outside of the home
c. When things are easy
d. When things are hard
4. Have an obedient heart
a. Be well pleasing to parents
b. Not talking back
c. Hoping always for grace
5. Have an insignificance to the world
but big in God’s eyes
a. Be small
b. Be weak
c. Be useable
6. Have a willingness to point to the Lord
a. Share what He is doing for you
b. Share what He can do for others
c. Share the need to be saved
Why did Naaman trust his wife’s little maiden?
What could a little slave girl know?
Her life spoke volumes!!
She had a credible testimony. Do you?
Titus 2:3-5
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Vs. (3) The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things,
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Behaviour - behavior toward others, outward manner
Becometh - to be suitable to
Holiness - befitting, reverent
False accusers - prone to slander
Given - made a slave of
Good things – teacher of goodness
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Teach - disciple, hold one to his duty, gentle or friendly reproof, counsel or warning against fault
Women- recently born, young, youthful, new
Sober – to control, curb, disciple, marked by a grave, earnest, and thoughtful character and demeanor, marked by temperance, moderation, or seriousness, showing no excessive or extreme qualities of fancy, emotion, or prejudice
Love - unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another
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Vs. (5) To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
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Discreet - curbing one's desires and impulses, self-controlled, temperate
Chaste - pure from carnality, chaste, modest, clean
Keeper – protector, custodian, superintendent, guardian
Good – useful, agreeable, joyful, happy, distinguished, upright, honorable
Obedient - to arrange under, to subordinate, obey, submit control, yield to admonition or advice
Acceptable Speech
I. What is Acceptable Speech? – Anyone? Moms? Teens? Girls? Is it pleasant greetings, manners of please, thank you, you are welcome in your conversation? Is it thoughtfulness in remembering to ask about another’s well being? Is it complimenting another on some new article of clothing? What say you? What sayeth the Lord? Proverbs 31:26 “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. Wisdom is the right use of knowledge
A. What is Wisdom from above? – James 3:17 “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.
1. Pure – clean, holy - I Peter 1:22 obeying the truth, genuine love of the brethren
2. Peaceable – quietly behaved, comforting – I Timothy 2:2 godliness and honesty
3. Gentle – kind and meek - Titus 3:2 speak evil of no man
4. Easy to be intreated – easy to be persuaded, approached – Ps 119:58
5. Full of mercy - kindness or good will towards the miserable and the afflicted, joined with a desire to help them – Matthew 9:13
6. Full of good fruits - that which originates or comes from something, an effect, result – Philippians 1:11
7. Without partiality - undistinguished, unintelligible – I Timothy 5:21
8. Without hypocrisy - unfeigned, undisguised, sincere – I Peter 1:22
B. What is Kindness? – Romans 12:10 “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in hounour preferring one another;”
1. Kindly affectioned - reciprocal tenderness of parents and children
2. With brotherly love – as you love your own family
3. In honour preferring one another - to go before and show the way, to go before and lead, to be an example
4. Tenderhearted – easily moved to love, pity, or sorrow
5. Forgiving – to pardon without penalty - Ephesians 4:32 “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”
II. What is Unacceptable Speech? – James 1: 26 “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.”
A. What is Evil Speaking? – I Peter 2:1 “Wherefore laying aside all malice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all evil speakings,
1. Malice - desire to cause pain, injury, or distress to another
2. Guile - akin to Old English wigle divination, witchcraft
3. Hypocrisies - a feigning to be what one is not or to believe what one does not; especially: the false assumption of an appearance of virtue or religion
4. Envies - painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage
B. What is Backbiting? - to say mean or spiteful things about one not present - Proverbs 25:23, 24
C. What is Whispering? - spreading confidential and especially derogatory reports - II Corinthians 12:20 “For I fear, lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I would, and that I shall be found unto you such as ye would not: lest there be debates, envyings, wraths, strifes, backbitings, whisperings, swellings, tumults:
D. What is Boasting? – to speak of or assert with excessive pride, to possess and often call attention to - Romans 1:30 “Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,”
E. What isTalebearing? – Proverbs 11:13 “A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.
F. What is Tattling? – idle talkers
G. What is a Busybody? – given to meddling, inquisitive – I Timothy 5:13 – “And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.”
III. What Causes Unacceptable Speech? - I Timothy 5:13 “And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.”
A. Idleness – vain, inactive, shiftless, lazy, not employed (mothers, work with your daughters, teach them to work, require them to work)
B. Wandering - aimless, slow, or pointless movement (mothers, don’t allow laziness)
C. Hypocrisy – Proverbs 11:9 “An hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.”
D. Ignorance – Proverbs 11:12 “He that is void of wisdom despiseth his neighbour: but a man of understanding holdeth his peace.” (Mom’s teach your daughters)
E. Foolishness – to talk long and idly, chatter – Proverbs 10:8 “The wise in heart will receive commandments (instruction): but a prating (to talk long and idly) fool shall fall.” Also III John 10 – “Wherefore, if I come, I will remember his deeds which he doeth, prating against us with malicious words: and not content therewith,”
IV. What Happens When We Use Unacceptable Speech?
A. We offend – James 3:2 “For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body
B. Devilish behavior – Titus 2:3 “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;” [accuser - adjective Diabolos (dee-ab'-ol-os)]
C. Hatred without a cause – Psalms 109:3 “They compassed me about also with words of hatred; and fought against me without a cause.”
D. Deceits – Proverbs 12:20 “Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counsellors of peace is joy.”
E. The Devil Controls Us – John 8:44 “Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.”
F. Our Reputation is Ruined – Proverbs 11:22 – “As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.”
G. Our Fellowship is broken – I John 1:6 “If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:”
V. What If We Hear Unacceptable Speech?
A. Conceal It – Proverbs 12:23 “A prudent man concealeth knowledge: but the heart of fools proclaimeth foolishness.
B. Submit to God – James 4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
C. Resist the devil – James 4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
VI. What If Someone is Uses Unacceptable Speech About Us? Romans 12:17-21
A. Return No Evil – “Recompense to no man evil for evil.”
B. Be Honest – “Provide things honest in the sight of all men”
C. Be Peaceable – “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.”
D. Take No Revenge – “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
E. Don’t Be Taken In By The Devil – “Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”
F. Examine Your Heart – Psalms 26:2 “Examine me, O LORD, and prove me; try my reins and my heart.” Just in case in there is some truth to the matter.
VII. Three Kinds of GOSSIPERS – Ultimately, the need to gossip is all about the gossiper’s desires to promote him or her self. If someone is bad or worse than you it makes you better… right? Wisdom from hell – James 3:14-16 – “But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”
A. Malicious
1. To be consciously and deliberately hurtful
2. Out of Selfishness and Jealousy
3. To break up relationships and destroy friendships
B. Rationalized
1. Self deceptio
2. Doing for the “good” of the other person
3. Out of “personal concern”
4. As a “prayer request”
C. “Innocent” (but indiscrete)
1. Someone truly concerned
2. Unwise and insensitive to other’s feelings
3. Desire to be “helpful”
VIII. The Godly Solution
A. James 3:17 “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.”
B. Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
C. Psalms 119:165 – “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.”
D. Matthew 18:15 “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.”
IX. Ask Yourself This Before You Speak: Ephesians 4:29-32 “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”
A. Is my information pure? Or am I changing it just a bit? (corrupt)
B. Will it help to build up the hearer? (edifying)
C. Does it help the hearer to draw closer to God? (grace)
D. Will this make the Holy Spirit grieve? (sorrowful)
E. Am I bitter, feeling vengeful (wrath), angry?
F. Do I just WANT others to KNOW? (clamour)
G. Will this make me look more spiritual and better than others? (hypocrisy)
H. Would this make the object of the “news” feel hurt?
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I. Am I being kind to tell this information? (loving this person as myself)
J. Am I being tenderhearted? (easily moved to love, pity, or sorrow)
K. Am I being forgiving? (pardoning without exacting a penalty)
Proverbs 10:32 “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable: (follow that still small voice) but the mouth of the wicked speaketh frowardness.”
I John 2:20 “But ye have an unction (an anointing) from the Holy One, and ye know all things.”
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LADIES 2ND ANNUAL TEA - 2007
The Woman Under Your Hat
I Corinthians 11: 8, 9, & 10
I Corinthians 11: 8, 9, & 10
Here’s Your Hat - Power
Vs 8. “For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.”
Vs 9. “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man”
Vs 10. “For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.”
OUGHT – God declares this to be our responsibility, something that we owe, that is due:
1. Owe to God
2. Owe to others
3. Owe to ourselves What is this hat for our head?? POWER
POWER – authority, the right, the liberty, the jurisdiction over, strength
1. Power is CHOICE - leave or permission, liberty to do as one pleases
a. With every privilege or liberty comes responsibility
b. Choose wisely
2. Power is physical and mental strength and ability endued by God!
a. For you to POSSESS (within)
b. For you to EXERCISE (without)
3. Power is authority – INFLUENCE on all - family, friends, opposite sex!
4. Power is RULE and government – whose will and commands must be obeyed by others
a. Royally – as a daughter of the king
b. Over all - “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"
c. Judicially – administrative decisions
d. Domestically – management of affairs
e. Submission - to your husband – a veil of propriety, the quality or state of being proper, suitable, compatible, able, qualified, virtuous, pure, modest, EXCELLENT
How to Wear Your Hat – with Responsibility
Choose ~ Possess ~ Exercise ~ Influence ~ Rule
(Wisely ~ Your Strength & Abilities ~ Others in Godliness ~ Yourself first, then your affairs)
I. WEAR YOUR POWER AS A PROPER CHILD OF GOD.
To be a proper child of God you must first be saved, baptized, a member of a local church and obedient to God’s Word.
1. CHOOSE Jesus Christ as your Saviour for now and eternity. “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
2. POSSESS and EXERCISE freedom from sin. “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” (Jn 8:36) “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (I Jn 1:9)
3. INFLUENCE others by godly example. “But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: …”
4. RULE yourself and all your lifetime of affairs from the Bible.
Godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come. This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptation. (I Timothy 4:8)
II. WEAR YOUR POWER AS A DAUGHTER.
1. CHOOSE obedience to God and your parents and your elders. “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.” (Ephesians 6:1)
2. POSSESS and EXERCISE your physical and mental abilities in the paths taught to you by your mother and father. Follow in daily routines no matter how boring! Habits formed bring ease. Lessons of life are learned by watching and doing.
3. INFLUENCE your parents, siblings, and other family members in your home by a godly example of obedience. Be a joy!
4. RULE yourself with diligence in learning and practicing all your affairs using love, kindness and faithfulness.
“…that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace: Happy is that people that is in such a case: yea, happy is the people whose God is the Lord. (Psalm 144: 12b, 15)
III. WEAR YOUR POWER AS A MOTHER.
1. CHOOSE to love your children! Love them when they are unlovely, love them when it’s hard to do. Love them when it means disciplining them. Love them just because.
2. POSSESS and EXERCISE your authority over your children.
3. INFLUENCE your children both by a living example and by teaching and enforcing what has been taught. (nurture & admonition)
4. RULE by decision and with management of time, resources, and with love and diligence.
“He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord.” (Psalm 113:9)
IV. WEAR YOUR POWER AS A FRIEND.
1. CHOOSE first and foremost to be the friend of God.
2. POSSESS and EXERCISE the physical and mental abilities (use your head!) that God has given you to remain loyal, first of all, to your greatest friend. “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24) The Lord, of course! Then, you will know how to be loyal to others.
3. INFLUENCE your friends from the words of God and with godly principles. “A friend loveth at all times…” (Proverbs 17:17). Not just when it is convenient. “A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer seperateth chief friends.” (Proverbs 16:28)
4. RULE yourself in any friendship (not your friend) by management of the time and resources you have available, thereby managing your affairs to be God honoring. Rule yourself with the authority that God has given you to remain pure. Don’t sully yourself! Do you trust God?? Then behave that way!
“…Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God.” (James 2:23)
V. WEAR YOUR POWER AS A WIFE.
1. CHOOSE proper submission to your husband. Choose that veil of propriety, the quality or state of being proper, suitable, compatible, able, qualified, virtuous, pure, modest, and EXCELLENT. God declares, “…the woman is the glory of the man.” (I Cor 11:7) Therefore, ought we to have power on our heads! How much more honor do you want? How much more honor can you handle? Choose to love your husband! Choose to love your children!
2. POSSESS and EXERCISE that mental and physical ability endued you by God to love and serve your husband by administrative decisions in the home and management of domestic affairs.
3. INFLUENCE the family members in your home by your example and principled behaviour directed by the words of God.
4. RULE! “Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” (Ephesians 5:24)
You have an influence on everyone in your life. Has not God placed you in a magnificent position to be a godly example? The powers he has endued you with lie within you to possess and exercise to influence your whole lifetime, and that of others, for good. Your parents, husband, children, and friends are all affected by your choices of how you use your power endued by God. Ladies young and old, single and married all have this responsibility to God, to others and to yourselves to have power on your head in order that you might be the proper child of God, as a daughter, mother, friend and wife who pleases and honors God.
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands: that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of the plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as you do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” (I Peter 3:1-6)
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